My wife and i have been invited to a party saturday nite.?

this is a high society party DR'S and L awyers and such. (lions , tigers and bears o my) im just a long haul truckdriver. what in the world will i talk about that want make me be the entertainment. my wife is a RN and can move around in this crowd. HELP ME!!!

My wife and i have been invited to a party saturday nite.?
I am assuming this is for your wife for some reason since she is a nurse and has to keep relationships with doctors. When she asks you to do stuff like this she probably understands it is a hard thing for you to do.





Tell her how overwhelmed you are. But don't use that as an excuse to beg out of the event, just tell her so that she can help you through it.





She can probably help you decide what to wear.





At the function, she will likely introduce you to people and tell you who the movers and shakers are, maybe some little tidbits that make the other people a little more human to you and break the ice for easier conversation. So remember a few things for confidence.





YOUR SELF ESTEEM must be intact. You aren't any less of a person than these people, even if you are "JUST???" a truckdriver. If you have trouble in these kinds of situations, the problem is yours as much as anyone else...no one can MAKE you feel comfortable in any social situation. If you go into the situation thinking that you don't deserve to be there, that is what you will project to other guests, and that is how they will treat you. Truth is, lots of upscale professionals are perfectly wonderful people and don't think better of themselves than others, and they bend over backwards for people who are uncomfortable around them. Plus if you go in there feeling less than them, or like you have something to prove, or feel like you are performing under a microscope, then you will just bumble all over yourself and then they will have reason to wonder whether you should be there.





Doctors and lawyers and other corporate professionals work hard too and that gives you something in common, even if you have different color "collars". There is a fundamental similarity between people who have to work to support their families and EVERYONE feels the pressure of economics and cost of living. Plus not too many people are born with the old silver spoon and go directly to law school without their share of hard physical work. And if you think there is any difference between you and them based on profession? Well, think of this. Many lawyers often spend a lot of time sweating (in court), and dealing with people that YOU probably wouldn't want to hang around with. And doctors very much use their hands to get the job done. A surgeon spends his days up to his elbows in blood and guts. You on the other hand, have a lot of pressure on you in YOUR job, just like they do. Driving safely, dealing with the public, protecting your load, missing your family, all to make sure that products get moved so they can stay supplied with things in THEIR HOUSES. And you have long weird hours in common, too. Many professionals are on call, and get ripped away from their families on a regular basis, have to make time at home COUNT. So these people are NOT too good for you, and most people from all social circles KNOW this, that everyone has their job to do.





No one is JUST their job. I bet someone in that room likes some of the same restaurants, foods, hobbies, bands, or sports, that you do. And if you have children, you can talk about your trials and tribulations with that, their activities, and also brag about your kids...believe me, children humble everyone and we all like to small talk about the kiddos. Being a trucker, you do your fair share of travelling even if you don't always get to stop and smell the roses or climb the mountains. If you find out that a family is going on a road trip, you might be able to suggest the best places to stop on the way, truckstops, rest areas, etc. and you can talk about the wonderful scenery you get to see from the highway. You can also exchange funny travel stories.





If you aren't in the loop with current events, local and beyond, get yourself familiar with what's going on before the party. We are all affected by what is going on in town. Is there a new restaurant coming to your town? A new highway going in? A local ordinance being passed? You can use these things as conversation starters without stirring up anyone's temper...and if a hot topic comes up (what do you think about gay marriage, the war, the president), don't inflame it, just say something neutral..."Gee, I was hoping to get away from that topic tonight, we have been talking about it a lot at home." and change the subject. There is always a hothead in every crowd that tries to push their agenda wherever they go or put you on the spot to make you feel inferior, or start an argument...don't allow it to ruin your night.





Just remember: Put your best foot forward, be kind, and relax. Rely on your wife, who knows these people, for support. And if someone tries to make you feel less than...it's their problem, not yours. Walk away with your head high and talk to someone else.





If all else fails, make the night short, or stick with your wife. You can make her the focus of your feelings that evening. How glad you are to support her, important this is for her, how pretty she looks, and how proud you are of HER career.





Manners are everyone's job! It is your job to support your wife by going to this party and carrying yourself with confidence and pride. It is HER job and other guests' to make sure you feel welcome there. Not everyone always remembers this but if you keep it in mind, and do your part, then you will have grown from this experience.
Reply:dress like you were going out on a boat and run around grabbing all the other wives butts i dont think you will have to stay very long
Reply:I think best is take a drink and keep smiling to everybody and only give the answers of asked questions and don't loose your confident,only they are in different profession.
Reply:Doctors and lawyers are real people, dont' worry. If all else fails, talk about the weather, sports, the last movie you saw, your kids, etc. And if you're a long haul truckdriver, I'm sure you've seen a lot of the country and might have some interesting tidbits, no? Hope this helps!


The person after me said the war and religion. NO!! Number one rule of socializing, stay away from religion and politics. You don't want to start a debate.


Wear whatever you're comfortable in, as long as it's appropriate.
Reply:hmmm feel for u - nothing worse than pretentious snobs -


OK off top of head - but u'll have to research these topics


1. Weather - hurricane season how its been pretty mild (no one will get offended by weather talk)


2. Health -, general health topics that concern society - i.e. smoking, (make sure no smokers, if u going to launch into tirade, keep it civil and a bit bland), keeping fit etc


3. Ask them questions like what do they think about current crime levels and do they agree with such and such in politics, let them rant on for a bit - but be prepared for the inevitable - and whats your view on the matter? (research research!) .


4. What you and your wife are doing this vacation or how much of the country you get to see being a driver.
Reply:Do what I do. I have a fear of these kinds of situations, too. Hang out with your wife as you enter the room. Go with her to find the people she wants to talk to. Women are better at this than men. While you're walking over to that group, make sure you get a drink. Make sure it's not beer or alcohol. Whatever it is, order it with a lime. It'll look like you're drinking. With your drink in-hand, head over to your wife's group. Just before you get there, excuse yourself to use the bathroom. She'll think it's weird timing, but too bad. Then take your drink and head for the corner of the room where you'll see somebody hanging out by themself. There's always somebody doing that. These days, they're usually talking on a cell phone or looking at a gadget. Ask that person for the time. Then mention something about the weather or some other small talk. Introduce yourself, get the person's name and head back to your wife's group. When you get there, let her introduce you, then mention the fact that you were just talking to so-and-so. This will help break the ice, and it'll help everyone feel like you belong at the party. The important thing is say something to somebody before you get introduced to anybody. That way, you'll have already said something to somebody without having to overthink what you'll say. It's kind of like swimming, Sometimes it's better to jump in all at once instead of dipping your foot in and worrying about how cold it is. These social situations are tough, but when you make a move first, it make things a lot easier.
Reply:This is what I like to do, just be vague, sidetrack questions, and answer phone calls speaking in other languages. It will trip them out, if you can learn some arabic that would be best.





Id wear a suit and tie, everyone else will be.





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WEAR A SUIT AND TIE, SHOWING UP IN COWBOY BOOTS WILL MAKE PEOPLE LAUGH AT YOU
Reply:I would dress nicely; long pants, button down shirt, and dockers.


I would agree with most people on here to ask the partiers about themselves, what they do, how do they like their jobs, stuff like that. Weather and chit chat is nice to begin a conversation, but it doesn't showcase who you are and what you bring to the table. I would exude confidence, obstain from using crass language, and use nice manners (like complimenting your wife when she's not in earshot.) These things go farther in life than what your job is. And if they ask what you do, just be honest and say what you do and have a few stories to tell about life on the road. You never know, they may envy you.
Reply:You shouldn't be intimidated by them, where I work, in financial sales, i go to work functions with Lawyers all the time, they're people too. they're not all pretentious lol the lawyers i hang with


have a foul-er mouth than i do;)


just relax and be yourself. ask them work questions lawyers


love talking about themselves and the law. just dont be tacky and


ask for free leagle advice or ask a dr about "some illness" you have. let your wife dress you because she will know what the


appropriate dress code is, and please go clean shaven, nothing says "trucker" like a beard.are your finger nails all dirty? make sure they are clean. get a decent trim or haircut too.


you'll blend right in





have fun!
Reply:get drunk
Reply:You would be surprised how stupid a lot of these people actually are. Just be yourself and have fun. I'm sure people will love talking to you- you will have something different to say and are not tired of hearing their same old stories and complaints. And if anyone is douchy enough to try to talk down to you (which I seriously doubt would happen) just start asking them questions about engine brakes or something they would be clueless about. Not having a Dr or Esq after your name doesn't make you less smart, just differently educated.
Reply:be yourself, but i can imagine such situations can be really uncomfortable.....just dont look down...head high and than God for the little you have,some have nothing.
Reply:Tell them stories of what happened on your drives. Should be interesting to them cos it's not everyday they meet truckdrivers.
Reply:Be yourself! I am sure your wife love's you just the way you are. Yes, there will probably some that will look down their noses at you, but they are the phonies. The rest will treat you well and probably enjoy hearing some of your stories. Have fun and be proud of what you do, without you most of us couldn't do our jobs!
Reply:ask them to tell you about their work, there's nothing doctors and lawyers like better than telling you about themselves, so ask questions and listen attentively.


also, talk about your wife and the work you know she does. spend lots of time by her side, she'll introduce you to people and be able to keep up the conversation beyond the basics.


enjoy yourself! don't be ashamed of what you do, hospitals and law firms wouldn't be able to exist without long haul truckdrivers moving materials and products around! think of that!
Reply:Since it's an informal event, the boots/Dockers ought to be fine, though definitely wear a button-down shirt and make sure the boots are clean (I don't know if the boots are used on non-dressy occasions).





I do not advocate getting a full drunk on - if you do drink, a little something to take the edge off your fear might help, but anything more than that and you risk genuinely unacceptable behaviour.





Since when are you expected to be *the* entertainment for this little soiree? Bear in mind that several of these people will probably be *dying* to talk about things other than their lines of work - if you don't feel like talking about yourself much, try asking them "So what do you do for fun?" (Warning: This may backfire as the person being asked realizes s/he has no life outside work.)
Reply:just be yourself when asked a question and dont try to be someone that your not.and what do you mean your JUST a long haul truckdriver,you work just as hard if not harder than some of the people that will be in attendance, so step your confidence level up a bit,eh.
Reply:Cant you just politely decline the invitation to the party? Unless your wifes job depends on it I wouldn't go to it.
Reply:whell... think sumtin... intelligent, or better yet, the wars (iraq and all) and religions, an all that, always be sincere and never hesitate to give your opinion.

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